THERE is no mistaking that the coronavirus pandemic has fundamentally changed the way we live. It's changed how we work, how we play and how we see our friends.
COVID-19 has ripped away too many lives too early, but amid the heartbreak and the tears, new lives are being welcomed and magical moments are still happening.
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Bathurst woman Erica Traves, who already had two beautiful children with husband Mat, never imagined she ould be giving birth to her third amid a worldwide pandemic.
Mrs Traves is pretty easygoing. She's got two boys, Cooper, 15, and Kalan, 11, and is the first to admit she doesn't get anxious about much at all.
But childbirth during a pandemic that has already killed more than 206,000 people globally did leave her with a whole new set of worries.
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"My biggest fear was not knowing if Mat would be in the room with me," she said.
"I was only allowed one person during the birth, so I couldn't have my mum during the birth or after, or even any visitors."
Thankfully for Mrs Traves, the birth of her third child Mace on April 10 was quick and complication free.
"I got to the hospital at 3.30am, had him at 5.30am and was home by 11am," she said.
"They [hospital staff] weren't as hands-on this time. If they needed to be, they were, but otherwise they stood back a bit."
In the lead-up to the birth, Mrs Traves was worried about coronavirus in the hospital and didn't want to spend any more time there than absolutely necessary.
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"I wanted to be out as soon as possible because I knew my environment was quarantined, but staying in the hospital, there was no guarantee," she said.
Speaking from her home, Mrs Traves said having Mace was very different to when she had her older sons.
"Our really close friends and family haven't met him yet," she said.
"It's a catch-22; it is lonely, but I'm pretty lucky that I've got the older boys at home. I think if I was just with the little one it'd be a bit different."
Couple's day was meant to be
MARCH 21 was always going to be the date when Bathurst couple Jessica Dellabosca and Ian Nightingale tied the knot.
Call it fate or very good luck, but their wedding day occurred just a few days before federal government restrictions kicked in that limited wedding attendees to five people, including the couple and celebrant.
"We've been together for six years and we got engaged in October 2018," Mr Nightingale said.
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At the time the Bathurst couple married at Borrodell Vineyard on the picturesque slopes of Mount Canobolas, just outside Orange, gatherings, including weddings, had been limited to a maximum of 100 people.
"We started off at 95 and then it just got lower and lower and we had 65 people turn up on the day," Mr Nightingale said.
"We had people from South Australia and Queensland and a few elderly people from Bathurst who couldn't come."
We started off at 95 [people] and then it just got lower and lower and we had 65 people turn up on the day.
- Ian Nightingale
Restrictions also required that venues allocate four square metres of space per person to allow for social distancing.
"We were both very stressed up until the day before because the one person per four square metre rule got announced as we were doing our rehearsal ceremony, so we had to change the seating plan that night," Mr Nightingale said.
"We had to put about 25 people outside ... we were actually pretty lucky because Borrodell were really helpful."
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Despite the government restrictions and the fact the couple had to cancel their planned honeymoon to Hamilton Island, they said they had a wonderful day.
"It was actually really good still. Borrodell were really helpful and they took the pressure off us on the day," Mr Nightingale said.
COVID-19 brings an abrupt end to nuptials
FOR many couples, a wedding is not only a sign of the love they share, but also the joining of two families and a celebration.
Shillobrations marriage celebrant Nat Shillington said engaged couples had been very understanding about the government restrictions for weddings.
"Everyone has been very caring and compassionate," she said.
"All the couples I had planned to marry have postponed."
One couple who had already had their wedding bands and bomboniere engraved with an April wedding date are among her clients who have postponed their nuptials.
"I've also got nurses on the frontline who've postponed their wedding to next year," she said.
All the couples I had planned to marry have postponed.
- Marriage celebrant Nat Shillington
While weddings can still go ahead with a maximum of five people, including the couple and celebrant, Ms Shillington has made the decision not to officiate over any during the pandemic to help ensure the health and safety of her own family.
While all businesses in the wedding industry have been affected by the restrictions, she said they are working together to accommodate couples still wishing to get married.
"All the vendors have been really understanding and so many of them have lost all their revenue because of this," she said.
Funeral changes are increasing the grief
TIGHT government restrictions mean that many people are missing the chance to say goodbye to friends and loved ones at their funeral.
Currently just 10 people, plus funeral staff or a minister, are allowed to attend a service and social distancing rules mean those who attend are unable to embrace each other in comfort.
For Anglican Diocese of Bathurst Bishop Mark Calder, funerals have been very difficult since restrictions were imposed.
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"Funerals have been the most challenging with great sadness involved at not being able to pay tribute to their late loved one as they would have wished, or indeed, at not being able to hug and physically console one another," he said.
"Technology has been used so that people have been at least been able to watch a livestream of the service."
Recently, Roland Samuels' mother, Margaret Samuels, died after a long battle with cancer, she was 95-years-old and was very well known within the Dubbo art community.
We weren't allowed the opportunity of a church service, it was a graveside service only. We had just the immediate family.
- Roland Samuels
At the time of her death on March 22, restrictions allowed just 15 people at her funeral and Mr Samuels said this made it very difficult.
"We weren't allowed the opportunity of a church service, it was a graveside service only," he said. "We had just the immediate family."
Margaret's family, however, was large - four children, eight grandchildren and one great-grandchild and Mr Samuels said then there was her large circle of friends who also could not attend.
"We are going to have a memorial with the [Western Plains] Cultural Centre some time later after the restrictions are lifted," he said.
Shakespeare Funerals manager Laura Carter said some families were coping better than others.
"Some families are finding it really hard, especially when they've got bigger families," she said. "At a lot of the funeral services lately, the grandchildren haven't been able to come."
Some people are pre-recording video messages or reading statements during the service from family members who are unable to attend.
"I had a Zoom service recently so people could watch even though they weren't there," she said. "It's hard to see families go through this."
Ms Carter said many people are looking towards the future.
"A lot of families are trying to direct their focus onto a big memorial or celebration after the restrictions are lifted," she said.